What do gay men do after sex
There are certain scenarios that many queer men live in fear of. Getting a haircut from a new, heterosexual barber. Kicking a football back to a group of lads in the park. Sending your dad a write meant for your daddy by mistake. Oh, just me then?
When it comes to sex, the potential for awkward situations is even higher. Particularly when, for lack of other options (and holes), anal sex is the default setting for many gay men. From the moment we go out into the society searching for dick and ass, we’re tasked with becoming experts on all things butt-related. Of course, some homosexual men prefer other sex acts, but while anal might not be everyone’s favoured release, it is undoubtedly a big part of gay male culture.
A dreaded gay sex scenario can arise if mess, otherwise known as shit, appears during the deed. Most “bottoms” (men who are usually penetrated during anal sex) will know the feeling of laying there, praying to the gay gods that when the “top” (the man who’s going to penetrate them) slides his dick in, there’s no poo. It’s not glamorous, but in the planet of buttfucking, an accident like this is almost guaranteed at some point.
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Why do some straight men have sex with other men?
According to nationally-representative surveys in the United States, hundreds of thousands of straight-identified men have had sex with other men.
In the new book Still Straight: Sexual Flexibility among White Men in Rural America released today, UBC sociologist Dr. Tony Silva argues that these men – many of whom enjoy hunting, fishing and shooting guns – are not closeted, bisexual or just experimenting.
After interviewing 60 of these men over three years, Dr. Silva found that they delight in a range of relationships with other men, from hookups to sexual friendships to secretive loving partnerships, all while strongly detecting with straight culture.
We spoke with Dr. Silva about his book.
Why do straight-identified men have sex with other men?
The majority of the men I interviewed reported that they are primarily attracted to women, not men. Most of these men are also married to women and prefer to have sex with women. They explained that although they loved their wives, their marital sex lives were not as active as they wanted. Sex with men allowed them to contain more sex. They don’t consider sex with men cheating and s
Men who have sex with men (MSM)
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Can same-sex attracted men give blood?
Gay and bisexual men are not automatically prevented from giving blood.
Men who acquire sex with men and who have had the same significant other for 3 months or more and connect our other eligibility criteria are fit to give blood.
Anyone who has had anal sex with a new companion or multiple partners in the last three months, regardless of their gender or their partner’s gender, must hang around 3 months before donating.
We assess your eligibility to deliver blood based solely on your have individual experiences, making the process fairer for everyone.
If you are taking pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) or post-exposure prophylaxis (PEP) you will be unable to offer blood. If you stop taking PrEP or PEP, you will need to wait 3 months before you can give blood.
We thank that any deferral is disappointing if you want to save lives by giving blood.
If you have previously been unable to offer blood because of the guidelines and would like to donate, please dial us on 0300 123 23 23. One of our team can review the new guidelines with you and, if eligible, novel your next appointment.
Why is there a 3-month wait after sex?
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Sexual health for queer and bisexual men
Having unprotected penetrative sex is the most likely way to pass on a sexually transmitted infection (STI).
Using a condom helps preserve against HIV and lowers the risk of getting many other STIs.
If you’re a man having sex with men (MSM), without condoms and with someone fresh, you should have an STI and HIV assess every 3 months, otherwise, it should be at least once a year. This can be done at a sexual health clinic (SHC) or genitourinary medicine (GUM) clinic. This is important, as some STIs do not result in any symptoms.
Hepatitis A
Hepatitis A is a liver infection that's spread by a virus in poo.
Hepatitis A is uncommon in the UK but you can obtain it through sex, including oral-anal sex ("rimming") and giving oral sex after anal sex. MSM with multiple partners are particularly at risk. You can also get it through contaminated food and drink.
Symptoms of hepatitis A can materialize up to 8 weeks after sex and incorporate tiredness and feeling sick (nausea).
Hepatitis A is not usually life-threatening and most people make a packed recovery within a couple of months.
MSM can elude getting hepatitis A by:
- washing hands after sex (bottom, groin a
Gay Men in Open Relationships: What Works?
Hint: It will take a lot of work.
As a couples counselor working with gay men I am often asked my opinion on monogamy and open LGBTQ relationships. What works for men in long-term relationships? First, the research.
Several research studies show that about 50% of gay male couples are monogamous and about 50% allow for sex outside of the bond. The research finds no difference in the level of happiness or stability among these groups.
Next, my opinions and advice, based on my therapy practice.
Talk About It Openly With Your Partner
If you and your partner want to have a close affair and have additional sex partners, be prepared for a lot of talking. And I’m not just referring to discussions about when, where and with whom. I mean talking about feelings, what we therapists call “processing.”
If that kind of conversation makes you squirm, I get. Most men are not socialized to embrace the sharing of intimate and vulnerable emotions. However, if you aren’t willing to experiment with processing then I suspect the closeness of your relationship may be limited, and you guys could be headed for